Erotic Wholeness Immersion
Your Private Bespoke Intimacy Retreat
As seen on Netflix’s Sex, Love, & Goop
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You watched Netflix’s Sex, Love, & goop as I expertly guided Shandra and Camille toward profound, vulnerable transformations, both individually and as a couple.
The tender, electric moments that unfolded touched millions—yet during this private deep dive, that transformation is all yours!
The Erotic Wholeness Immersion is not a workshop or one-size-fits-all seminar.
Your intimate, custom-designed, experiential journey awaits
Where each aspect of your experience has been lovingly crafted with your intentions and desires in mind.
Whether you take this journey on your own or with a partner, let’s be clear that this isn’t about fixing you (spoiler alert: you’re not broken). It’s about creating a space for you to liberate the potency, desire and embodied wisdom within waiting to be unleashed.
Welcome To Your New Beginning
Hear directly from Darshana about what this immersive experience encompasses, from deeply regulating your nervous system to exploring your authentic erotic expression
All The Juicy Details Of Your Immersion Experience
Understanding Your Custom Curated Bespoke Immersion Experience
Because each person who works with me, whether individually or as a couple, comes to this profound journey with their unique set of lived experiences and intentions, the particulars of the experience can look different for different people.
This is precisely why I have evolved the shape of this container to have both a clear structure, rooted in a proven framework yet ample space for flexibility and creativity to adapt to your needs. However your path may wind, a potent transformation awaits you.
Some clients need to spend more time in the Foundational Phase: Regulation & Relationship. This is often true for people who have more complex trauma histories. It also applies to those who are beginning a new chapter of their relational life, whether that means exiting a significant partnership, entering a new one or embracing a new facet of your personal gender, sexual or relational identity.
Others arrive with a different baseline of experience, so we focus more heavily on creating intimacy rituals and embodied erotic explorations that introduce innovative ideas and widen the field of possibility for their capacity for pleasure and depth of presence.
The duration of our work together may be modified to best meet you where you are and guide you where you wish to go. We move at the pace of presence and the speed of trust. Practically speaking, this may mean additional preparation or integration sessions, spreading your in-person days out rather than enjoy them consecutively, or in limited instances with local clients, working together over a series of shorter sessions for several months.
More About This Work
When you show up for your sessions, I invite you to consider that you’re stepping into the Erotic Wholeness Laboratory. Like any laboratory, there are different tools, variables and such that we’ll use to conduct the wide range of “intimacy experiments”, a fun way to orient to the many different practices, inquiries and experiences that will underly the time we spend together.
Your intentions for taking this journey are what we center every session around. The core elements and distinct phases of the Erotic Wholeness Journey provide a general roadmap for us to follow, Yet beyond that, we get to be curious and creative about what tools will work best moment by moment to help you get where you want to go.
These tools include the full scope of my robust professional toolkit as a trauma informed sex, intimacy and relationship coach, the depth and breadth of my personal experience living, loving, healing and relating, and the abundant permission for you to be exactly as you are and trust in the unfolding of your experience.
And here’s the cool thing about experimenting. . .there’s simply no way to do it wrong.
Whatever the “outcome”, there’s tremendous value. Whether you gain a better understanding of something you want more of in your life, or less, or you find that you actually do like something you thought was a no-go or affirm a well held limit, each time we come together for a session you are gaining more and more of your Erotic Wholeness.
So here’s to you courageously exploring what these intimacy experiments have to offer you as you claim your Erotic Wholeness!
Picture this: You step across the threshold of your personally selected, private retreat space, chosen with your comfort and our explorations in mind. The air hums with intention, every corner echoes care, and the day ahead holds promise—not pressure.
Nourishment and encouragement are woven into all the details, from the delicious snacks and meals that’ll keep you fueled to the creative range of practices to help you evolve. Each hour we spend together is curated to guide you yet another step further along your unique path, weaving moments of ritual and rejuvenation into the intimacy coaching, whole bodywork and erotic exploration that are the pillars of your experience.
This is not about performing.
It’s about returning—to your body, your truth, and your joy.
Every layer of life that feels imbalanced, heavy, or disconnected begins to soften and strengthen in the warmth of a container that meets and holds you exactly as you are.
This is true intimacy, first and foremost with yourself.
And that, dear one, is the foundation of every other intimate connection you will ever enter into.
Is This Right For You?
The Erotic Wholeness Immersion is a deep dive designed for those ready to show up – vulnerably, courageously, wholly – for themselves and the relationships that matter most.
It’s for…
- Women & AFAB Individuals committed to reclaiming their right to pleasure, power, passion and partnerships that don’t ask them to shrink.
- Couples (all orientations & genders except for MM) seeking the guidance and skills essential to [re]building a foundation of profound trust and intimacy.
- Those exhausted by “faking” it, whether in sexual scenarios, relationship dynamics, or life on the whole, who are ready to live authentically.
- Anyone who felt seen by Netflix’s Sex, Love, & Goop and wants that level of guidance and transformation in a deeply personal, private setting.
Your past, your wounds, your fears? There is ample space for them here, just as there is ample space for your present, your healing and your bliss. All of you is welcome. Here, you belong.
What’s Included in This Exclusive Experience
This is not a group retreat or quickie workshop where you just fade into the crowd. This is a container made just for you. Every detail is designed with your healing and wholeness in mind.
Your Erotic Wholeness Immersion Includes:
Custom Retreat Flow
There are no cookie-cutter programs or rigid agendas here. Each activity, experience and moment of pause is chosen to honor exactly where you are and where it is you want to go. We commit to moving at the speed of trust and embracing what is, with plenty of curiosity and creativity in the mix.
Darshana’s Exquisite Expertise
Every immersion is as dynamic as you are. What remains consistent is a degree of exceptional professionalism, passion and presence to hold you throughout. Our activities will range from guided ritual to soulful counsel to intimate, hands-on practices. Every moment is tailored to foster discovery and growth.
Diverse Somatic Modalities
Trauma-informed, culturally-sensitive and pleasure-centric guidance into the profound wisdom your body and heart already hold is what’s on the menu. Recalibrate your nervous system, open to desire and embody your deepest truth, with elements of Somatic Experiencing, Sexological Bodywork and other tools.
Restoration and Reflection Practices
Slowing down to make space for integration is as essential as active practice. Expect to engage in moments of profound simplicity that allow you to metabolize and truly embody the many breakthroughs you’re sure to experience.
Logistics
Pre-Immersion Preparation
We’ll start to lay the foundation of this container well before you arrive, easing into this transformative journey and nurturing our rapport with one another to ensure you’re ready to meet the moment fully when we’re together in person. These Zoom sessions offer space for both preparatory coaching and practical logistics.
Post-Immersion Integration
Transformation doesn’t end when the retreat does, especially if you want to sustain it. Our integration sessions support you to deepen your explorations and weave all you’ve experienced into the fabric of everyday life.
Handpicked Accommodations
We provide a curated selection of spaces – private Airbnbs – so you get to show up, unpack your bag and feel held and at home during your session time as well as your down time. I come to you each day of your immersion for our sessions with all that’s needed so that you can focus on what truly matters.
Delicious Meals For Body & Spirit
Food isn’t just fuel here. It’s sensual pleasure and an integral part of your experience. Meals and snacks are chosen with your dietary preferences and health in mind, plus a bit of select indulgence for good measure. We’ll eat lunch together, while you’ll get to enjoy breakfasts and dinners on your own. Choose from a list of Darshana’s favorite local spots, adventure on your own or keep it cozy and simple at “home” as you prefer.
Praise From Those Who've Come before You
Like Nothing Else You’ve Ever Experienced
The truth is it can be hard to convey just how powerful and singular an Erotic Wholeness Immersion is. . . but I’ll sure try!
There’s a reason why my work has resonated with millions and inspired people from all around the globe to seek my support.
We’re here to tap into something real. Something profound. Something special. And believe me, it goes way beyond what you’ve seen on screen!
It’s rare to find the opportunity for private guidance of this caliber.
The care you’ll receive is genuine, not performative.
Expect to feel my love and investment in your journey in equal measure to your own. The luxurious touches you’ll enjoy are thoughtful, not showy, added to enhance your comfort and growth.
And most of all, the transformation you’ll experience is profound, not superficial, intended to stay with you forever, not just for a few days.
- True Exclusivity: This is NOT a group experience. It’s built exclusively for you, adapted in real time to meet your needs, capacities and intentions.
- Holistic Healing: All we do together honors your body, mind, heart and spirit, and the uniqueness of your lived experiences.
- Luxury Meets Substance: Because you deserve both and you shouldn’t have to choose between world class guidance and a touch of pampering.
- Enduring Results: This isn’t just about fleeting moments. It’s about giving you experiences, skills and a mindset that’ll alter how you move through life, forever.
This is so much more than a retreat. It’s the beginning of the thriving, empowered, pleasure-filled life you’ve longed for.
The Most Meaningful Investment You’ll Make
You’re not choosing this immersion to merely treat yourself. You’re here to transform yourself, your intimacy and your relationship to all you hold most dear.
For those ready to fully invest in a profound experience of pleasure, intimacy, and connection, the Erotic Wholeness Immersion includes the following:
- Thoughtful Accommodations for your private retreat space
- Gourmet Meals & Snacks perfectly tailored to your needs
- Fully Personalized Retreat Flow centered on your intentions
- Profound Facilitation with 6 hours of 1-on-1 or 1-on-2 with Darshana each day
- Pre-Retreat Preparation & Post-Retreat Integration sessions via Zoom
For Individuals
$13,000
Payment plans are available. Scholarship funds may be as well. Happy to discuss further during your exploration call as needed.
Includes 3 days in-person, lunches and snacks. You will be responsible for 4 nights accommodations, other meals and travel expenses.
For Couples
$17,000
Payment plans are available. Scholarship funds may be as well. Happy to discuss further during your exploration call as needed.
Includes 4 days in-person, lunches and snacks. You will be responsible for 5 nights accommodations, other meals and travel expenses.
Are you a SF Bay Area Local?
I offer the option of a modified immersion where you come to my studio, whether for 3-4 consecutive days or you can stagger those days over a pre-determined span of time.
You’ll have the same incredible immersion experience, without the travel, for $12,000 and $16,000 respectively.
Reach out and let’s discuss!
“For those who choose to work with Darshana, be prepared for a powerful and moving experience which will lovingly change the way you approach you relationship and be prepared to take your love life to a whole new level”
C. J. – Couples Immersion Client
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Hi, I’m Darshana!
I’m here to nurture a culture of Erotic Wholeness.
There are plenty of titles and credentials you can call me by, yet “Intimacy Bestie” gets to the heart of how I show up.
Get ready for an abundance of candor, warmth and stories from the vault of my lived experience, just like you’d want your bestie to share with you!
I’ve spent more than a decade creating safer spaces for women and AFAB folks to heal the hurts that have held them back and explore their authentic erotic expression.
They’ve created the lives and relationships of their dreams thanks to our work, and so will you!
Expect a balanced blend of New York no-nonsense and California compassion from me, with plenty of sage advice and innovative suggestions to enhance your journey.
I am a practiced guide whose super powers are profound presence and making the edgy feel approachable.
Frequently Asked Questions
What if I’ve never done anything like this before?
You’re not alone, because there aren’t all that many experiences quite like this. Most people who choose an Erotic Wholeness Immersion for themselves have done some, or quite a lot, of talk therapy, perhaps attended some workshops or read a few books. Yet few have ever been held and guided with the gentle strength and personalized care of this container. Everything you need for your retreat is either already in you, or will be expressly discussed with you in advance. The entire experience is trauma-informed and paced with your comfort in mind. This isn’t about performing; it’s about discovering and reconnecting with yourself in a safe, supportive space.
Exactly who is an Erotic Wholeness Immersion for?
I serve all women (cis and trans) and AFAB folks, whether you seek an individual journey or to do so alongside a partner (of any gender). Queer, kink, ENM and other such identities are warmly welcome here, as are straight, vanilla, monogamous ones. While I’ve supported people in their 20s up through 70s, the vast majority of my clients are in their mid 30s to mid 60s. Your particular reasons for seeking me out might range widely, yet the absolute must is that you’re deeply committed to investing in yourself, your pleasure and your liberation, otherwise what’s the point?!
How do I know for sure if this is the right fit for me?
If intimacy, connection, and authenticity are calling to you, and you want to be held and guided by one of the world’s top experts in the field, then this retreat is likely aligned with what you’re seeking. Still unsure? Apply anyway! Darshana personally reviews every application and will arrange a consultation call to discuss your desires, intentions and concerns to goals and ensure this experience is the right fit for you.
Is this therapy? What if I already have a therapist?
No, this is not therapy and I am not a psychotherapist (LMFT, LCSW, etc) even though you’re likely to have a highly therapeutic experience. Some of the modalities that inform my work, like Somatic Experiencing and Internal Family Systems, are “therapy adjacent”, but our focus is on going where most therapists cannot go given the level of intimacy this work encompasses. If you have a therapist you love, amazing! Please keep seeing them so long as it serves you, and know that our work together is intended to always be a complement to that.
Exactly how intimate will we be getting?
You’re here because you want to transform something significant in your life in the realm of eroticism, sexuality and intimate relating. So we’re going to get quite intimate when it comes to the topics we discuss, the emotions you may feel and the physical activities you engage in. That can include nudity, genital contact, states of arousal and certain explicitly sexual acts with your full consent and within the scope of my professional parameters. As a Certified Sexological Bodyworker I consistently uphold my profession’s code of ethics.
Pertinent highlights from that include me remaining clothed at all times, always wearing gloves for genital contact and engaging exclusively in one directional manual [using hands only] touch/acts. This means I am not receiving any erotic touch from you and acts like kissing or genital to genital contact between you and I, even with clothes on, are out. If you choose to take this journey with your partner, the two of you can be as fully expressed as you mutually desire and consent to. You’ll have my full guidance and support, yet my professional boundaries and limits remain the same regardless.
My partner is hesitant. Can we still do this as a couple?
Absolutely, so long as each of you ultimately fully consents and is open to the experience. Hesitancy and nervousness are natural, and it’s not entirely unusual for one half of a couple to be the instigator of this deep work. Your immersion experience offers a non-judgmental, pressure-free environment where both of you will feel safe to show up as you are. Each couple (and individual for that matter!) are met with care and compassion, and guided at a pace that works for both of you. This is about creating space for experimentation and growth while honoring everyone’s boundaries and capacities. We can discuss any concerns during our exploration call to determine the best way forward for all involved.
Where does this take place?
That depends! I am based in Oakland, California, just across the bay from San Francisco on the unceded land of the Lisjan Ohlone people. The vast majority of my clients come to me, though in certain instances we might arrange for me to come to you. If that is your desire, let’s discuss!
Those who travel in from outside of the Bay Area will receive the full retreat experience, including private accommodations in an upscale neighborhood in or very near to Oakland, while local clients may choose to meet at my home studio. Feel free to inquire for further details.
What is the cancellation or rescheduling policy?
We understand that life happens. In all instances, we request that you give as much notice as possible regarding any changes. If you need to reschedule your immersion and provide at least one month’s notice, we are generally able to accommodate that, though there may be a rebooking charge related to your actual accommodations. Should you for some reason decide to cancel your immersion, initial deposits are non-refundable, and the refunding of any subsequent payments will be considered on a case-by-case basis. The detailed terms of our working agreement will be provided during your onboarding process so expectations are clear and transparent.
Still have questions? Reach out to us directly at info@darshanaavila.com, and we’d be happy to help. This is about creating a retreat that feels perfectly tailored to you.
Accessibility Statement
Your comfort and ease are central to this experience. We thoughtfully consider accessibility needs in every aspect of the retreat. From selecting retreat spaces that provide physical comfort and ease of movement to preparing meals that accommodate diverse dietary restrictions, no detail is overlooked. If you have specific accessibility needs or concerns, please share them in your application or during you consultation call so we can make sure your retreat is an aligned fit for you.
Ethical Commitment
This retreat is built on respect, care, and inclusivity. Darshana is committed to creating a space that honors your experiences, boundaries, and voice. Rooted in trauma-informed and justice-centered practices, this experience is free of judgment, expectation, or pressure. It’s designed for you to feel seen, celebrated, and empowered to reconnect with yourself and your relationships. Here, your truth is always welcome.
Enthusiastic, informed, ongoing consent is the foundation of all we do and will be one of the first building blocks we explore as we dive in together. You are never obligated to do anything you do not want to do and you always get to change your yeses to nos, and vice versa, as your experience unfolds.
Power and privilege are other areas of tremendous importance here. While it would be easy to assume the practitioner wields the power in a container such as this, I am here to help you access your sense of personal power, agency and choice. This includes me being mindful of the intersections of my identity that may be systemically vested with more power than some of yours (ie I am a white, cis, able-bodied woman and I work with many women of the global majority, trans folks and those of varied abilities). I am committed to creating an environment where you know you can call me in if I misstep and be assured you’ll be treated with respect and care rather than retaliation on my part.
Right Relationship With Place
Darshana lives and works on the occupied ancestral lands of the Lisjan Ohlone people and firmly supports their efforts to reclaim and rematriate these lands by paying Shuumi Land Tax. A portion of your retreat will be donated to the Sogorea Te’ Land Trust, the urban indigenous women-led organization overseeing these efforts.
A Parting Love Note...
My dear, I invite you to imagine living life with a sense of deep clarity, confidence and connection as your baseline. A life that feels rich and juicy, rooted in ease and joy.
This isn’t a dream. It’s an invitation.
The Erotic Wholeness Immersion is not just about leaving behind what holds you back. It’s about leaning fully into everything you already are and have the potential to be.
Liberating the power and pleasure of the erotic within yourself, infusing all of your relationships with a depth of joy, intimacy, and love you weren’t sure was possible, and living in accordance with your authenticity is what awaits you.
Are you ready to claim it?
