. . . the people who want to be in relationship with us more often than not genuinely want to do right by us. Don’t you want to do that for the ones you love? Be it your partner or your parent, your best friend or your boss, it is entirely possible to cultivate a capacity for giving them your very own proverbial users manual . . .
It’s news to many of us that we can actually update to a mature, integrated, well-resourced system of relational skills! You probably update your cell phone’s operating system with far more regularity than you do your internal system, yet it doesn’t have to be that way. It is entirely possible to have fulfilling experiences of abundant intimacy in your relationships and still respect and tend to your unique needs that grew out of your earliest imprints.
. . . It never ceases to amaze me how many women are shocked by the accessibility of their orgasms when we work together, or the recognition that there are many types of orgasm and experiences of ecstatic pleasure to be felt beyond the Hollywood and porn-infused friction based screaming climax . . .