The Pussy Portal: Accessing the path to power and pleasure

This one goes out to the yoni-bearers . . .

That precious, potent place between our thighs is more than just a passage for life in the form of another human to come through. It is more than a place for the pleasure of another to be sought. It is the seat of our greatest power and often an essential facet of our healing journeys.

Yet far too many of us are disconnected in countless ways. The words “pussy”, “yoni”, “vulva”, or “vagina” are ones many fear to even speak. The sensations of this rich terrain have been dulled or numbed out completely. And the essential relationship between our sex and our emotional wholeness and well being has been severed.

I’m not here to talk about how or why this has happened. We’ll save that for another article. If you’re living in a body with a vulva (or love someone who is) what’s most important to me, from my professional lens and experience working with countless yoni-bearing bodies, is that you know it doesn’t have to be this way. I am here to empower you to choose connection with yourself instead.

I spend my days offering a safe, supportive and sacred space for this process of connection to unfold, and for many of the women I am honored to work with that involves stroking their pussies. True statement! Have I got your attention now? And yes, I serve penis-bearers as well, but again, that’s another article for another time.

Back to the pussy portal . . .

As a certified sexological bodyworker, one of the principal modalities I incorporate into my somatic sex and intimacy coaching practice, I have the privilege of taking a hands-on approach to guiding women into the depths of intimacy with their own bodies (physical, emotional and energetic) that many have never known before or that they have lost contact with throughout the trials and tribulations of life.

Weaving together an approach that is at once erotic and therapeutic, I offer a trauma-sensitive and tantra-informed space for women to re-inhabit their bodies with the innate innocence and curious awareness that is their birthright. I provide a field of permission for each one to discover the pockets of hidden feelings and sensations that ultimately inform her unique path to pleasure and power. I hold each woman’s body, heart and spirit with the unconditional love and support that is needed to safely explore her sweet self and to unfold into the full embodiment of the Divine Feminine that she is here to be.

When a woman is touched in a way that is truly attuned to and honoring of HER, which is to say her needs, desires, fears, preferences, pacing and mood, her yoni becomes the seat of not just pleasure but power. It never ceases to amaze me how many women are shocked by the accessibility of their orgasms when we work together, or the recognition that there are many types of orgasm and experiences of ecstatic pleasure to be felt beyond the Hollywood and porn-infused friction based screaming climax. (Spoiler alert: that is not the be-all, end-all folks!)

So many of my yoni-bearing clients enter in believing themselves to be inorgasmic or very slow to build in arousal, needing the support of specific toys or visuals, dependent upon the relational dynamics shared with their partners, and on and on only to find that once invited into a deep presence and communion with their own bodies in a space free of agendas or demands, the pathway to pleasure is often simple and swift.

This is not to say it is always so for everyone, and it is certainly not to say that it is an easy path for everyone to get to this place. I work over time with many women to excavate the layers of pain and shame that are blocking them from their power and pleasure before we get hands on. What I aim to emphasize here is that there is a vast, often untapped potential living in the bodies of women, accessed most directly through that precious and holy place between their thighs, and when approached slowly and sincerely, the wisdom and wonder that lays in wait is often astounding, and goes far beyond a few seconds of ecstasy, reverberating out into every facet of life.

Through this work, I get the immense pleasure of waking up to messages like these following a session:

“It was so important for me to know I could relax and enjoy it, allow it, experience it. . . and orgasm! I wasn’t sure if I could or would be able to. This made me feel so very empowered, especially to experience this with someone other than ‘that guy’.” AR
“I felt tremendously held, heard, validated, understood, honored, seen and skillfully so. It was not easy for me to lay in your arms and cry initially; however, once I surrendered, it was very healing. I am proud of myself for moving beyond fear. I am grateful [to be] tearing down my walls and armor from the trauma that . . .  left me so raw. I thank the Goddess for your ability to be safe, loving, kind and skillful to make this comfortable healing space for me.” AD
“OMG, that was so hot! My body likes being touched, especially when I’m feeling safe . . . I am quite orgasmic it seems . . . It feels good, alive and pleasurable.” RB
“I felt this incredible feeling of freedom, to allow my brain to be less full of thoughts and baggage, and allow my body to feel pleasure and enjoyment and my natural feelings of connection and joy.” KA
“[The yoni massage] made me feel like I was allowed to enjoy pleasure for the first time! Profound! When you said to me during it ‘enjoy your pleasure and receive it’ that made and enormous impact on me! I’ve felt shame and guilt around pleasure since I was a child and I was finally able to believe you.” AR

To my fellow yoni-bearers, I want this for YOU. I deeply desire for every single one of us to be initiated into the potency of our bodies, the power that lives in our pleasure and the vast potential that is available to us when we are truly tuned in and turned on. And if you too want this for yourself, I invite you forward. Maybe it’s a baby step. Maybe it’s a giant leap. Whatever it is, I await you with open arms on the other side to guide and support you along the way.

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