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Feeling Shame Or Pain In Your Sex Life? How To Become Erotically Empowered, Deepen Intimacy, And Ask For The Pleasure You Want, with Somatic Sex Educator Darshana Avila – Teach Me How to Adult Podcast

Do you ever struggle with shame, pain, numbness, or disconnection in your sex life?

So many of us have done inner child work, attachment work, and therapy for our mental health — but we’ve never applied that same lens to our sexuality. Cultural conditioning, religious messaging, porn, performance pressure, trauma, and body shame all shape how safe (or unsafe) we feel in intimacy. And often, it’s our sexual selves that become fragmented.

In this episode, I’m joined by trauma-informed somatic sex educator and Erotic Wholeness coach Darshana Avila (featured on Goop’s podcast and TV show) to explore how to heal sexual shame, navigating painful sex, ways to deepen intimacy, and confidently asking for the pleasure you actually want. Darshana has dedicated her career to helping people tune in to their truth, desires, and authentic relationships. Her work has been featured on Netflix’s Sex, Love & goop, and she’s spent over a decade guiding people out of the cultural patterns that keep them stuck.

Darshana Avila

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Darshana Avila

I believe that each of us tending to our personal erotic liberation is an essential contribution to our collective liberation.

My journey began as a precocious child who loved to dance, move, touch and speak her mind boldly. I once thought I’d become a lawyer and spent more than a decade building a successful corporate career early in my adult life only to find my heart calling for something radically different. That call led me to blaze a path across the terrain of sexuality, somatics, social justice and soul.

Inspiration and guidance have come to me from many sources, including the potent voices of the Black intersectional feminist movement, the pancultural wisdom of many earth-based traditions and powerful modalities such as Somatic Experiencing and Sexological Bodywork.

I’m deeply honored to serve and inspire in the ways I do.

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