What Would Your Wild One Do?

When you hear the world “wild” used to describe a person, what does it call to mind?

Our cultural conditioning has co-opted that word to denote something decidedly negative much of the time. So perhaps what arises for you is out of control. Unruly. Disheveled. Inappropriate. Childlike. Untrustworthy.

Yet wild is what we are. What we ALL are. And all of us remember this in someway, no matter how small and distant that memory may seem, no matter how well it has been exiled to the furthest recesses of our experience. We are wild at our core because we are of the earth, just like every tree, stone, river and deer. We are native to this place just like every mountain, lake, bird and flower. Not only do we belong to the wilds of nature, we are the wilds of nature in human form.

With this wildness comes both an incredible amount of possibility and responsibility. We are wild ones with the gift of sensation and emotion, and we use those to perceive our inner and outer landscapes, our relationship to our own self and our relationships with all of those around us, human and more than human alike.

The possibilities are boundless! There are infinite ways to relate and relish in the experience of our senses and feelings, our bodies and hearts. And the responsibility that comes with this is significant as a result. We must cultivate discernment and learn to listen to the guidance of “negative” sensations and emotions just as surely as we must celebrate fully the magic of “positive” ones.

To really embrace our wildness is to live fully into the potential of our Erotic Wholeness, one facet of it anyway. Eros, at the root of erotic, is a passionate form of love, and that is not the same as romantic love. To express the fullness of our eroticism is to give ourselves over to our senses, our instincts, our impulses.

And that can provoke fear and discomfort for many, with good reason. Because as modern humans so often our senses, instincts and impulses seem untrustworthy because they have been tampered with, suppressed, thwarted. What is actually needed is a collective rewilding. A shedding and severing of the falsehoods that we’ve come to believe as true and a return to the wisdom of our bodies and hearts in balance and harmony with the wider world we are part of.

Our Erotic Wholeness is an integral part of this.

When we really allow ourselves the wonder and pleasure of awakening our eroticism across its full spectrum of possibility, when we let our wildness express itself without judgment or restraint, our relationships are enhanced. We move through life with expanded vitality, inhabiting our sensuous nature with more depth of presence than ever before. This makes us more available to and nourished by our connections, human and more than human. It lets us explore edges and perhaps take risks we wouldn’t dare to navigate otherwise. And it gives us the ability to feel more fully, which might just be the most important part of all.

As we feel more fully, there is an invitation to be with a vast range of feelings. Just as a cactus beneath our fingers will provoke a very different response than a rose, certain emotions are designed to provoke a different response in us human creatures. And those responses are pathways to inquiry and enhanced understanding of our human experience and our relationships.

Feeling hurt or disappointed can turn us onto where our values and morals lie and how we believe we/others/the earth should be treated. Feeling sadness and grief shows us what we truly love and desire, what we care about and how we can best care for ourselves and our relations . Feeling afraid invites us to assess levels of risk and threat in our lives and to call upon or cultivate skills and support for navigating them.

The one who has integrated their wildness brings passion and presence to their life and all the connections in it. When it comes to interpersonal relating, our wildness most certainly has its place in creating deeply satisfying intimacy in our lives. Creativity in lovemaking, the playful curiosity that can lead us to discover new ways and places on our body that awaken as erogenous zones stems from our wildness. Emotional intelligence, the capacity to stay present across a broad spectrum of feelings and communicate in meaningful, constructive ways does as well. A sense of ease and confidence rooted in the knowledge that “I belong here” and “who I am is perfect, natural, ok” is an integral part.

I leave you with an inquiry that I hope you will take on in earnestness anytime you have the chance as you walk through both the inner and outer landscapes of your life. Ask yourself often. . .

What Would My Wild One Do?


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I believe that each of us tending to our personal erotic liberation is an essential contribution to our collective liberation.

My journey began as a precocious child who loved to dance, move, touch and speak her mind boldly. I once thought I’d become a lawyer and spent more than a decade building a successful corporate career early in my adult life only to find my heart calling for something radically different. That call led me to blaze a path across the terrain of sexuality, somatics, social justice and soul.

Inspiration and guidance have come to me from many sources, including the potent voices of the Black intersectional feminist movement, the pancultural wisdom of many earth-based traditions and powerful modalities such as Somatic Experiencing and Sexological Bodywork.

I’m deeply honored to serve and inspire in the ways I do.

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